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Family vs CHEM 101 Success 

The Bible says that the enemies of a man (or woman) will be those of their own household. How true in most cases, but not all cases. If a person has a good family, defined as helping them achieve the goals of CHEM 101, which are, Children, Health, Education, and Money, for service to God and Country, then all may well be well. 

But if a person is struggling in any of these areas, or all of these areas, then the first place to look is the effect their family is having, and/or has had, on them. This is the first and usual suspect and it is more often than not the right culprit.

Family is an addictive substance, and like all addictions it can be a good one, (in the case of a good family) or a bad one in the case of a “dysfunctional” family, a family that is a proven toxic to the individual. The mechanics of the whole “family” process is complex and overwhelming, once understood, at least in part. 

For one thing, the individual will try to shoehorn any new acquaintance, friend, spouse or children into the old wine bottle of their former family. They sub-consciously strive to “make” the new person in their life fit into, and just become one of, the poor family that they “left.” This often destroys the value of the new person and even drives them off, or makes them less valuable. What is the new person good for, if they are made to serve negative goals in the same way the failed family already serves. It is pouring good money after bad to misuse new people or organizations this way. 

A good family is the best thing in the world, but a bad family, (and by definition most families are bad,) is the worst thing that can happen to anyone. 

Try to cordon off the old failed family and let them stew in their own juices and try to build a new life with new and better people, and make a new and better family, IF YOU CAN. Doing this is not a slam dunk, but not doing it dooms the person to repeat the failure of his old family, perhaps in an even more virulent form. 

The test is CHEM 101 for service to God and Country (CHEMGC). This is a very good measuring stick for your life. Many people are able to do one of the four CHEM’s plus the two servings, but few do anywhere near all six in any acceptable manner.

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